Take Back the “Function” from “Dysfunction”

Take Back the “Function” from “Dysfunction”

I spent years reliving the dysfunction in my past. So much so, that I was unable to grow emotionally. And then I saw this sign in a local coffee shop: I just had to have it, because it exemplified everything that held me back in my relationships, my profession, my life. Let Go to Grow I have successfully survived post-traumatic stress, transitioning to post-traumatic growth.  My dysfunction of suppressing the truth for years kept me trapped in a dissociative state where I knew the truth, but no one else acknowledged it, making me feel silenced, powerless.  Angry.  Until I finally spoke up in trauma therapy, opening the door to my prison of silence.  And I let it go. Function from Dysfunction By reading the text of my past aloud in trauma therapy, it allowed my mind to close that chapter, freeing it of the re-reading I had been doing to try to make sense of the dysfunction that I had survived.  The new chapters of my life are written by...
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Try Without Fear of Failing

Try Without Fear of Failing

I wrote a book. A 50,000 word novel.  In a month.  I have achieved more in one year than I ever dreamed possible - all because I tried. Failing terrified me... But, WHO would I have failed?  Myself?  Why put limits on myself with the fear of failing?  Life was meant to be lived - with failure.  Because really, isn't failing how we learn?  How we grow?  How we master our craft? So, I also made a book trailer for my novel, because, why not???  I'm not scared of failing... ...
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Move Forward for a Better Life

Move Forward for a Better Life

I suffer from chronic inflammation and haven’t been able to identify the cause. Sometimes my joint pain is so bad that it hurts to bend my fingers or even walk. But, strangely enough, when I begin moving in the morning, though painful, I feel relief from my symptoms. At noon it is merely an annoyance, and by dinnertime my pain is gone completely. The days I remain stationary, resting my joints to allow healing, the pain doesn’t subside, but gets worse. It made me realize that when life’s challenges seem to be at their worst, moving forward, though uncomfortable, can lead you to a better place. Cheers to shifting your reality past our obstacles! ...
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How to Revolutionize Your Wrinkles

How to Revolutionize Your Wrinkles

Wrinkles of Time Today I look in the mirror, I see wrinkles where there used to be none. I see these fine lines of experience, of traveling down paths unknown and my lifetime of willingness to learn along the way. Turn Back the Hands of Time: Change the Wrinkle Lens I cut bangs, I bought creams, all in an effort to hide my years traveling around the sun collecting knowledge through trial and error. But, why??? Why hide where I've been and who I've grown to be??? I'm no longer the taut, wrinkle-free skin of my youth.  I'm the flexible, soft and supple skin of experience. I present my crows feet, laugh lines uncovered, proudly displayed as signs of wisdom and beauty found in the adventures of life. Cheers to wrinkles, distinguishing an acumen of life well lived!...
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Being Positive Doesn’t Make You Blind to Reality

Being Positive Doesn’t Make You Blind to Reality

Positive thinking is not blind positivity, nor is it magical. However, the positive perspective you bring to realistically face today's challenges or obstacles will make your journey less arduous. It might even bring some needed growth, strengthening you for tomorrow's unexpected trials as well. Cheers to keeping on your rose colored glasses!...
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Love and Loss

Love and Loss

Sharing Love Through Heartbreak When I came across this image, the love I saw through their loss, my heart stopped for a moment, and then I read the corresponding news article about the last day of a five year-old girl who died in the arms of her parents. The image was heartbreaking, yet beautiful. The healthy little girl, diagnosed with a quick-growing, rare form of brain cancer, left the family with limited time to share. The hospice nurse captured this moment as the little girl drew her last breaths.  She lay on her mother and father as they held her, gazing sweetly at her while her favorite Harry Potter movie played in the background. They were there for her first breath, and they remained there for her last. All Humans Love, and All Humans Experience Loss This picture evoked a human empathy that touched me personally.  I recognize through my relationships other parents who have faced love and loss.  I, myself, have lost...
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Routine in Life Stifles Your Fire

Routine in Life Stifles Your Fire

It’s hard to admit, but honestly, the only time I really clean my house well is when I’m expecting visitors. The rest of the time, it’s more of a clean as needed routine. I feel we experience life in this same manner - going through our days, on autopilot, just getting things done and settling into a groove.  (Or worse yet, the grind).  But consider the electricity in the atmosphere when a change blows into our routines. Feelings of excitement and anticipation create that unmistakable fire of feeling alive. It is staggering the ease positive energy puts into our activities when we break from our norm. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not wishing to clean my house more often, but the task sure is easier when I am looking forward to a visit from friends! Cheers to making each day special and different from the last!...
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Negative Perception Leads to Failure

Negative Perception Leads to Failure

“If you think you can or you can’t, you are right.”Henry Ford said that, and he left quite a mark on history.  Sometimes we justify a negative perception of ourselves, our capabilities as being “realistic”. But then, why waste your time even trying? The limit is in your mind only - eliminate negative perceptions. My son spent a week at Camp Woodward, an X Games type sports camp for his BMX trick riding, and my husband and I were speechless when we visited on the last day to see all that he had learned.  After a week with state-of-the-art facilities and working alongside professionals of the sport, he showed us the trick he mastered, No Hands. Yes, I wrote trick. A week.  At camp. Speechless. Dream it, you can achieve it.Reuniting with my son unearthed a lot of information, and insecurities.  It turns out that he put pressure on himself to appear successful, like the pros he was watching.  He told himself that if he couldn't do a trick...
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Take Charge of Life by Letting Go

Take Charge of Life by Letting Go

Wow. Just wow. Yesterday morning slapped me with a brazen reminder that as much as I want to be in charge, to make all of the decisions and determine the timetable based on my needs, it just isn’t up to me. Worrying is like a rocking chair.  It gives you something to do, but it gets you nowhere. I worked my tail off in April, trying to attract a literary agent for my manuscript. I cried my eyes out in May feeling like I had failed. I woke up to an email yesterday, in June, from a literary agent requesting my full manuscript for publication consideration. It always works out in the end.  (If it hasn't, it's not the end...) No matter how many times I experience life working out exactly the way it is supposed to, I still get caught up trying to direct this journey around the sun.  Let's just let go and let life happen!!! Cheers to accepting abundance all in good time!...
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