Childhood Trauma Affects Your Entire Life

Childhood Trauma Affects Your Entire Life

This. This is the piece of the puzzle from my childhood that I've been missing. This. This is the secret I've been hiding behind my smile. This. This is what countless children and adults in every zip code, every corner of your life face while navigating learning, relationships, careers, and even their long-term health.  Exposure to adversity in childhood by trauma or chronic stress actually changes our physiology, affects our brain development, and even alters our body's transcription of DNA. Childhood trauma does NOT just go away as we grow up. As an elementary teacher for fifteen years, yes, I have lived, experienced the hardships trauma and chronic stress cause for a child. I have seen children struggle to learn, battle for impulse-control, toil to maintain friendships, all while suffering tummy aches, headaches, lack of sleep. But that's not the end of their struggle. These children left my classroom, having learned to read and add and subtract.  But what about their tummy aches, headaches, and chronic deprivation of sleep?  What happened to those beautiful...
Read More
Please Excuse the Mess…

Please Excuse the Mess…

Watch Your Step! Under Construction: Please Excuse the Mess… Because I’m a mess. A beautiful mess. My glorious imperfection assembled with remnants of growth amid mood swings, feelings of failure - all supported with the learning that surrounds my mistakes. And I’ve made mistakes. And that’s okay. Because that’s how our imperfect minds evolve and develop. It’s not always pretty when you’re working on something to make it better. So, I’m going to extend the gift of grace not only to those around me, but most importantly, offer this needed gift to myself as I continue to be a work in progress. Cheers to loving your beautiful mess!!!!...
Read More
I Can Do Anything for a Minute – Even Keep Emotional Balance

I Can Do Anything for a Minute – Even Keep Emotional Balance

Emotional Balance: One Minute at a Time I began running for exercise a while back and not only did I feel awkward, like a lumbering moose, but my lungs felt like they were going to explode. Very uncomfortable. So uncomfortable that I wanted to quit. But then I found a running app that speaks, encourages like a running partner. One sunny day it declared to me, “Speed up for a minute. You can do anything for a minute.” Yes. Yes I can. You see, I struggle to keep balanced - and no, physically balanced is not my issue, but emotional balance is challenging. I try my hardest not to get frustrated when things don’t happened as I had planned, or pissed off when someone’s driving is ridiculous (because my driving is perfect…😉) But, can I stay in the moment, balanced for a minute?                 Of course. I can do anything for a minute. Cheers to keeping your peace - one minute at a time!...
Read More
Take Back the “Function” from “Dysfunction”

Take Back the “Function” from “Dysfunction”

I spent years reliving the dysfunction in my past. So much so, that I was unable to grow emotionally. And then I saw this sign in a local coffee shop: I just had to have it, because it exemplified everything that held me back in my relationships, my profession, my life. Let Go to Grow I have successfully survived post-traumatic stress, transitioning to post-traumatic growth.  My dysfunction of suppressing the truth for years kept me trapped in a dissociative state where I knew the truth, but no one else acknowledged it, making me feel silenced, powerless.  Angry.  Until I finally spoke up in trauma therapy, opening the door to my prison of silence.  And I let it go. Function from Dysfunction By reading the text of my past aloud in trauma therapy, it allowed my mind to close that chapter, freeing it of the re-reading I had been doing to try to make sense of the dysfunction that I had survived.  The new chapters of my life are written by...
Read More
Negative Perception Leads to Failure

Negative Perception Leads to Failure

“If you think you can or you can’t, you are right.”Henry Ford said that, and he left quite a mark on history.  Sometimes we justify a negative perception of ourselves, our capabilities as being “realistic”. But then, why waste your time even trying? The limit is in your mind only - eliminate negative perceptions. My son spent a week at Camp Woodward, an X Games type sports camp for his BMX trick riding, and my husband and I were speechless when we visited on the last day to see all that he had learned.  After a week with state-of-the-art facilities and working alongside professionals of the sport, he showed us the trick he mastered, No Hands. Yes, I wrote trick. A week.  At camp. Speechless. Dream it, you can achieve it.Reuniting with my son unearthed a lot of information, and insecurities.  It turns out that he put pressure on himself to appear successful, like the pros he was watching.  He told himself that if he couldn't do a trick...
Read More
Take Charge of Life by Letting Go

Take Charge of Life by Letting Go

Wow. Just wow. Yesterday morning slapped me with a brazen reminder that as much as I want to be in charge, to make all of the decisions and determine the timetable based on my needs, it just isn’t up to me. Worrying is like a rocking chair.  It gives you something to do, but it gets you nowhere. I worked my tail off in April, trying to attract a literary agent for my manuscript. I cried my eyes out in May feeling like I had failed. I woke up to an email yesterday, in June, from a literary agent requesting my full manuscript for publication consideration. It always works out in the end.  (If it hasn't, it's not the end...) No matter how many times I experience life working out exactly the way it is supposed to, I still get caught up trying to direct this journey around the sun.  Let's just let go and let life happen!!! Cheers to accepting abundance all in good time!...
Read More