Childhood Trauma Affects Your Entire Life

Childhood Trauma Affects Your Entire Life

This. This is the piece of the puzzle from my childhood that I've been missing. This. This is the secret I've been hiding behind my smile. This. This is what countless children and adults in every zip code, every corner of your life face while navigating learning, relationships, careers, and even their long-term health.  Exposure to adversity in childhood by trauma or chronic stress actually changes our physiology, affects our brain development, and even alters our body's transcription of DNA. Childhood trauma does NOT just go away as we grow up. As an elementary teacher for fifteen years, yes, I have lived, experienced the hardships trauma and chronic stress cause for a child. I have seen children struggle to learn, battle for impulse-control, toil to maintain friendships, all while suffering tummy aches, headaches, lack of sleep. But that's not the end of their struggle. These children left my classroom, having learned to read and add and subtract.  But what about their tummy aches, headaches, and chronic deprivation of sleep?  What happened to those beautiful...
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Pain and Strength

Pain and Strength

Are You in Chronic Pain?I am, or used to be, but it's getting better every day.  Let me open up and invite you behind the scenes to share my story of hope. I have experienced strange, chronic inflammation for several years. I actually gained twenty pounds over the years that I felt "ill".  Doctors listened to my aches, pains, and concern about my sudden weight gain, and they recommended that I lose the weight.  I kept telling my husband, "I don't feel fat, I feel poofy."  The joint pain and muscle aches sometimes overwhelmed me when I tried to exercise regularly, and the scale never budged.  I’ve spent days alarmed, scared, annoyed, and in different levels of pain with these erratic symptoms that appear out of nowhere and come and go as they please. Though I’m in a situation I’d rather not be, I’m blessed.I recognize this blessing every time I look at my symptoms from this perspective: My immune system is...
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How to Weather Life’s Storms in Each Season

How to Weather Life’s Storms in Each Season

I’m in a sweet season of my life right now - Sunshine, joy, an embrace of warmth envelops me... But, it's not always been this sweet... Believe me, I’ve been through sticky seasons, many dark seasons, and sometimes even blah seasons, making me really appreciate this sweet aura. It’s the change in the air as seasons come and go that makes me feel alive. And that’s one thing in life that I can count on to stay the same: change. So here’s to welcoming the season changes in life, knowing they are just that - temporary. Cheers to weathering the storms and enjoying the journey!...
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I Can Do Anything for a Minute – Even Keep Emotional Balance

I Can Do Anything for a Minute – Even Keep Emotional Balance

Emotional Balance: One Minute at a Time I began running for exercise a while back and not only did I feel awkward, like a lumbering moose, but my lungs felt like they were going to explode. Very uncomfortable. So uncomfortable that I wanted to quit. But then I found a running app that speaks, encourages like a running partner. One sunny day it declared to me, “Speed up for a minute. You can do anything for a minute.” Yes. Yes I can. You see, I struggle to keep balanced - and no, physically balanced is not my issue, but emotional balance is challenging. I try my hardest not to get frustrated when things don’t happened as I had planned, or pissed off when someone’s driving is ridiculous (because my driving is perfect…😉) But, can I stay in the moment, balanced for a minute?                 Of course. I can do anything for a minute. Cheers to keeping your peace - one minute at a time!...
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Try Without Fear of Failing

Try Without Fear of Failing

I wrote a book. A 50,000 word novel.  In a month.  I have achieved more in one year than I ever dreamed possible - all because I tried. Failing terrified me... But, WHO would I have failed?  Myself?  Why put limits on myself with the fear of failing?  Life was meant to be lived - with failure.  Because really, isn't failing how we learn?  How we grow?  How we master our craft? So, I also made a book trailer for my novel, because, why not???  I'm not scared of failing... ...
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Move Forward for a Better Life

Move Forward for a Better Life

I suffer from chronic inflammation and haven’t been able to identify the cause. Sometimes my joint pain is so bad that it hurts to bend my fingers or even walk. But, strangely enough, when I begin moving in the morning, though painful, I feel relief from my symptoms. At noon it is merely an annoyance, and by dinnertime my pain is gone completely. The days I remain stationary, resting my joints to allow healing, the pain doesn’t subside, but gets worse. It made me realize that when life’s challenges seem to be at their worst, moving forward, though uncomfortable, can lead you to a better place. Cheers to shifting your reality past our obstacles! ...
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Being Positive Doesn’t Make You Blind to Reality

Being Positive Doesn’t Make You Blind to Reality

Positive thinking is not blind positivity, nor is it magical. However, the positive perspective you bring to realistically face today's challenges or obstacles will make your journey less arduous. It might even bring some needed growth, strengthening you for tomorrow's unexpected trials as well. Cheers to keeping on your rose colored glasses!...
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Negative Perception Leads to Failure

Negative Perception Leads to Failure

“If you think you can or you can’t, you are right.”Henry Ford said that, and he left quite a mark on history.  Sometimes we justify a negative perception of ourselves, our capabilities as being “realistic”. But then, why waste your time even trying? The limit is in your mind only - eliminate negative perceptions. My son spent a week at Camp Woodward, an X Games type sports camp for his BMX trick riding, and my husband and I were speechless when we visited on the last day to see all that he had learned.  After a week with state-of-the-art facilities and working alongside professionals of the sport, he showed us the trick he mastered, No Hands. Yes, I wrote trick. A week.  At camp. Speechless. Dream it, you can achieve it.Reuniting with my son unearthed a lot of information, and insecurities.  It turns out that he put pressure on himself to appear successful, like the pros he was watching.  He told himself that if he couldn't do a trick...
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