Take Back the “Function” from “Dysfunction”

Take Back the “Function” from “Dysfunction”

I spent years reliving the dysfunction in my past. So much so, that I was unable to grow emotionally. And then I saw this sign in a local coffee shop: I just had to have it, because it exemplified everything that held me back in my relationships, my profession, my life. Let Go to Grow I have successfully survived post-traumatic stress, transitioning to post-traumatic growth.  My dysfunction of suppressing the truth for years kept me trapped in a dissociative state where I knew the truth, but no one else acknowledged it, making me feel silenced, powerless.  Angry.  Until I finally spoke up in trauma therapy, opening the door to my prison of silence.  And I let it go. Function from Dysfunction By reading the text of my past aloud in trauma therapy, it allowed my mind to close that chapter, freeing it of the re-reading I had been doing to try to make sense of the dysfunction that I had survived.  The new chapters of my life are written by...
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Love and Loss

Love and Loss

Sharing Love Through Heartbreak When I came across this image, the love I saw through their loss, my heart stopped for a moment, and then I read the corresponding news article about the last day of a five year-old girl who died in the arms of her parents. The image was heartbreaking, yet beautiful. The healthy little girl, diagnosed with a quick-growing, rare form of brain cancer, left the family with limited time to share. The hospice nurse captured this moment as the little girl drew her last breaths.  She lay on her mother and father as they held her, gazing sweetly at her while her favorite Harry Potter movie played in the background. They were there for her first breath, and they remained there for her last. All Humans Love, and All Humans Experience Loss This picture evoked a human empathy that touched me personally.  I recognize through my relationships other parents who have faced love and loss.  I, myself, have lost...
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Take Charge of Life by Letting Go

Take Charge of Life by Letting Go

Wow. Just wow. Yesterday morning slapped me with a brazen reminder that as much as I want to be in charge, to make all of the decisions and determine the timetable based on my needs, it just isn’t up to me. Worrying is like a rocking chair.  It gives you something to do, but it gets you nowhere. I worked my tail off in April, trying to attract a literary agent for my manuscript. I cried my eyes out in May feeling like I had failed. I woke up to an email yesterday, in June, from a literary agent requesting my full manuscript for publication consideration. It always works out in the end.  (If it hasn't, it's not the end...) No matter how many times I experience life working out exactly the way it is supposed to, I still get caught up trying to direct this journey around the sun.  Let's just let go and let life happen!!! Cheers to accepting abundance all in good time!...
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Happiness is Easy to Find and Yours to Give

Happiness is Easy to Find and Yours to Give

The Gift of Giving Unexpected gifts are the best. Last week, I received a beautiful memento from a friend. I had been looking for a special statue to rest at my brother's gravesite, but I was struggling to find just the right one. My friend knew of my desire and made it her quest to locate just what I was looking for.  Presenting me the beautiful fairy statue was a symbol of our friendship, but also a touching reminder that giving is the key to happiness. Suffolk Fairy Emily Statue by HomeStyles True Happiness is Giving it Away The fact is, the graciousness you reveal by the act of giving is even more valuable than the gift itself.  You can give a smile, give your time, give your compassion, all with no cost but great benefit to you.  As Maya Angelou so thoughtfully said, "When we give cheerfully and accept gratefully, everyone is blessed."  Remember, every time you give your happiness away, you are gaining happiness in...
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Don’t Look Back

Don’t Look Back

So, I was driving down the road of my life, and I hurriedly made a decision.  Not a bad decision, nor a good decision-just a decision based on the best information I had at the time.  After receiving news that the decision could have, should have went the other way to benefit me more abundantly, I started to look back in my rear view mirror to see the path I missed.  While doing so, I failed to see what was right in front of me - clear open road to more opportunities...the opportunities that are laid out directly on the path I am traveling.  I quickly placed my eyes back on the road and thought, "I don't need to waste time looking back, that wasn't meant for me."  Keep your eyes on the road and enjoy the ride!...
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No Need to Worry

No Need to Worry

I'm the first to admit it - I looked down. If you read my previous post, you know I did not keep my eyes fixed on the Sun. Yeah, that's right, I started to think doubting thoughts. But then yesterday, out in the sunshine while cleaning my pool, I caught the Sun's reflection in my sunglasses as I was looking in the depths of the water. It all came shining back at me - even if all is still on the top of the water, you never really know what's at work under the surface... Wouldn't you know it, right after I put the pool cleaning supplies away, I got the call I've been waiting for?...
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