Happiness is Easy to Find and Yours to Give

Happiness is Easy to Find and Yours to Give

The Gift of Giving Unexpected gifts are the best. Last week, I received a beautiful memento from a friend. I had been looking for a special statue to rest at my brother's gravesite, but I was struggling to find just the right one. My friend knew of my desire and made it her quest to locate just what I was looking for.  Presenting me the beautiful fairy statue was a symbol of our friendship, but also a touching reminder that giving is the key to happiness. Suffolk Fairy Emily Statue by HomeStyles True Happiness is Giving it Away The fact is, the graciousness you reveal by the act of giving is even more valuable than the gift itself.  You can give a smile, give your time, give your compassion, all with no cost but great benefit to you.  As Maya Angelou so thoughtfully said, "When we give cheerfully and accept gratefully, everyone is blessed."  Remember, every time you give your happiness away, you are gaining happiness in...
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Multitasking and Focusing Mistakes

Multitasking and Focusing Mistakes

We, the human race, are not built for this... While skimming the news this week, I read that humans are terrible multitaskers.  It turns out that trying to accomplish more than one thing at a time actually reduces your focus and productivity. And all this time I've been praising myself and others for over-committing our to-do lists and schedules in order to "get it all done".  I guess we've been doing a lot, but not very well! A perfect example of the multitasking myth...You can't get very far sucking your thumb and snuggling a blanket while riding your trike!  Can you really do it all? Research doesn't shine a promising light on the multitasking myth.  In fact, researchers are finding that our focus is decreased, actually divided between each task we do. For example, let's say my husband greets me as I arrive home and begins a  conversation.  At the very same time, my phone chimes to indicate an incoming email. While listening to my husband,...
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Time to Throw in the Towel?

Time to Throw in the Towel?

The amount of snot my body can produce is really staggering. I've been to the doctor twice, been on antibiotics, decongestants, and a steroid inhaler for over a week, yet I still feel like I'm hearing people talk underwater with the amount of fluid trapped in my head. But I'm sure you're very familiar with this scenario, as this nasty virus/bacterial infection seems to have met everyone in our town.  I did everything I could to destroy this invasion of my personal being-including rest and PLENTY of sleep, and I realized I'm getting nowhere with this passive approach; I'm taking this bugger head on!     Off to the gym I drug myself, complete with a can-do, positive attitude leading the way to the group class.  The warm up came and went, barely making an impression on me. I thought, "I should have gotten off the couch, out of my pajamas days ago!" I felt a rush as I hungrily attacked...
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Why So Blue?

Why So Blue?

Today has the most beautiful blue winter sky. The sun is shining brightly through hues of indigo melting into a cornflower blue, dotted by puffy, cotton like clouds. Yet, through the beauty, I was feeling the blues. Yes, even the cheerful can get down. The more I wrote and reflected on my rich life I shared with my beloved brother, the ache in my heart grew stronger. I miss him. A lot. But we all have grief from a loved one lost, either through death, a breakup, or distance. The memories shared, as lovely as they are, can still bring the sadness. I don't want his memory fade, and sometimes the grief I feel makes his memory more present, more real. It was this thought that made me realize that I shouldn't shy away or suppress these feelings. I can embrace them knowing that the most beautiful rainbows are comprised of blue. ...
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Winning Through a Loss

Winning Through a Loss

He lost.  The long struggle to win was lost.  But he never quit fighting.  He might have been the weakest, but he was a strong fighter.  And I was his eternal cheerleader.  He was only thirteen when he died from the disease he was born fighting.  I was only twelve when I lost my brother, Michael, my best friend.  He taught me so much in those twelve years...how to fight the good fight, to never let struggle get you down, to appreciate what you've been given, and to have the faith that we've all been given a special path to travel in this life that will lead us to our purpose, and possibly, that purpose is to touch the hearts and inspire others to keep up the good fight. His struggle to catch his breath, have a productive cough, or even simply convince someone to please pick up that Lego piece he had dropped for the hundredth time, stole every bit...
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She came for my inspiration, but she left me inspired…

She came for my inspiration, but she left me inspired…

I have a jovial spirit.  Many tell me that my smile and enthusiasm are contagious, so I wasn't surprised that a participant at my workshop had come to grab a hold of some of that inspiration.   What I wasn't expecting was the strong sense of connection she and I shared as soon as she entered the room as I was greeting the day's participants.  It was electric.  She and I just locked eyes and felt a bond that sent our excitement for the workshop into overdrive.  During the workshop breaks, she and I would drift together, sharing our passion for motivation and empowerment.  Near the end of the workshop and our time together, she shared with me her intention to begin her own inspirational workshops, and that she had registered for this workshop facilitated by me solely based on the word of mouth of past participants who had felt energized by my contagious enthusiasm.  She came to learn from...
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