Please Excuse the Mess…

Please Excuse the Mess…

Watch Your Step! Under Construction: Please Excuse the Mess… Because I’m a mess. A beautiful mess. My glorious imperfection assembled with remnants of growth amid mood swings, feelings of failure - all supported with the learning that surrounds my mistakes. And I’ve made mistakes. And that’s okay. Because that’s how our imperfect minds evolve and develop. It’s not always pretty when you’re working on something to make it better. So, I’m going to extend the gift of grace not only to those around me, but most importantly, offer this needed gift to myself as I continue to be a work in progress. Cheers to loving your beautiful mess!!!!...
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Take Back the “Function” from “Dysfunction”

Take Back the “Function” from “Dysfunction”

I spent years reliving the dysfunction in my past. So much so, that I was unable to grow emotionally. And then I saw this sign in a local coffee shop: I just had to have it, because it exemplified everything that held me back in my relationships, my profession, my life. Let Go to Grow I have successfully survived post-traumatic stress, transitioning to post-traumatic growth.  My dysfunction of suppressing the truth for years kept me trapped in a dissociative state where I knew the truth, but no one else acknowledged it, making me feel silenced, powerless.  Angry.  Until I finally spoke up in trauma therapy, opening the door to my prison of silence.  And I let it go. Function from Dysfunction By reading the text of my past aloud in trauma therapy, it allowed my mind to close that chapter, freeing it of the re-reading I had been doing to try to make sense of the dysfunction that I had survived.  The new chapters of my life are written by...
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How to Revolutionize Your Wrinkles

How to Revolutionize Your Wrinkles

Wrinkles of Time Today I look in the mirror, I see wrinkles where there used to be none. I see these fine lines of experience, of traveling down paths unknown and my lifetime of willingness to learn along the way. Turn Back the Hands of Time: Change the Wrinkle Lens I cut bangs, I bought creams, all in an effort to hide my years traveling around the sun collecting knowledge through trial and error. But, why??? Why hide where I've been and who I've grown to be??? I'm no longer the taut, wrinkle-free skin of my youth.  I'm the flexible, soft and supple skin of experience. I present my crows feet, laugh lines uncovered, proudly displayed as signs of wisdom and beauty found in the adventures of life. Cheers to wrinkles, distinguishing an acumen of life well lived!...
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Love and Loss

Love and Loss

Sharing Love Through Heartbreak When I came across this image, the love I saw through their loss, my heart stopped for a moment, and then I read the corresponding news article about the last day of a five year-old girl who died in the arms of her parents. The image was heartbreaking, yet beautiful. The healthy little girl, diagnosed with a quick-growing, rare form of brain cancer, left the family with limited time to share. The hospice nurse captured this moment as the little girl drew her last breaths.  She lay on her mother and father as they held her, gazing sweetly at her while her favorite Harry Potter movie played in the background. They were there for her first breath, and they remained there for her last. All Humans Love, and All Humans Experience Loss This picture evoked a human empathy that touched me personally.  I recognize through my relationships other parents who have faced love and loss.  I, myself, have lost...
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Happiness is Easy to Find and Yours to Give

Happiness is Easy to Find and Yours to Give

The Gift of Giving Unexpected gifts are the best. Last week, I received a beautiful memento from a friend. I had been looking for a special statue to rest at my brother's gravesite, but I was struggling to find just the right one. My friend knew of my desire and made it her quest to locate just what I was looking for.  Presenting me the beautiful fairy statue was a symbol of our friendship, but also a touching reminder that giving is the key to happiness. Suffolk Fairy Emily Statue by HomeStyles True Happiness is Giving it Away The fact is, the graciousness you reveal by the act of giving is even more valuable than the gift itself.  You can give a smile, give your time, give your compassion, all with no cost but great benefit to you.  As Maya Angelou so thoughtfully said, "When we give cheerfully and accept gratefully, everyone is blessed."  Remember, every time you give your happiness away, you are gaining happiness in...
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Taco Bell

Taco Bell

Last weekend I found myself in a Taco Bell drive-thru, dirty, sweaty, and just plain hangry. I had spent the entire day working in the yard without taking time to eat properly, trying to finish up my to-do list before running my daughter to her sport practice. I was starving by the time The Bell caught my stomach’s attention. I pulled up to the speaker to order when my whole day turned around. The employee taking my order was HAPPY. Happy to speak with me, happy to take extra time to get the order correct, happy to be at work, exuding a sense of pride in himself that spilled over into my day. His happiness reminded me that whatever task is at hand, do it with joy. Cheers to spreading your joy!...
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A Smile is Never Wasted

A Smile is Never Wasted

Sometimes a smile is all I have to give.  In a frustrating, time-restricted world I can succumb to my own fret... But, I can always muster a smile.  And that smile travels far - from me to the impatient person in the checkout line behind me shifting their weight in disapproval as I hem haw between the flavors of gum before I commit to the pack that I finally hand the cashier, softening the waiting customer's facial expression.  This spreads into a smile that they share with the cashier as they finally get their turn to check-out.  The hangry cashier who hasn't had a chance to eat her lunch since the line has not let up for what seems an eternity, sees the friendly customer and for a moment forgets her lunch and begins a chummy chatter.  When the manager walks by, seeing the cashier sharing a welcoming smile in her check-out line, the manager's pride in his team swells, making...
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