Take Back the “Function” from “Dysfunction”

Take Back the “Function” from “Dysfunction”

I spent years reliving the dysfunction in my past. So much so, that I was unable to grow emotionally. And then I saw this sign in a local coffee shop: I just had to have it, because it exemplified everything that held me back in my relationships, my profession, my life. Let Go to Grow I have successfully survived post-traumatic stress, transitioning to post-traumatic growth.  My dysfunction of suppressing the truth for years kept me trapped in a dissociative state where I knew the truth, but no one else acknowledged it, making me feel silenced, powerless.  Angry.  Until I finally spoke up in trauma therapy, opening the door to my prison of silence.  And I let it go. Function from Dysfunction By reading the text of my past aloud in trauma therapy, it allowed my mind to close that chapter, freeing it of the re-reading I had been doing to try to make sense of the dysfunction that I had survived.  The new chapters of my life are written by...
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How to Revolutionize Your Wrinkles

How to Revolutionize Your Wrinkles

Wrinkles of Time Today I look in the mirror, I see wrinkles where there used to be none. I see these fine lines of experience, of traveling down paths unknown and my lifetime of willingness to learn along the way. Turn Back the Hands of Time: Change the Wrinkle Lens I cut bangs, I bought creams, all in an effort to hide my years traveling around the sun collecting knowledge through trial and error. But, why??? Why hide where I've been and who I've grown to be??? I'm no longer the taut, wrinkle-free skin of my youth.  I'm the flexible, soft and supple skin of experience. I present my crows feet, laugh lines uncovered, proudly displayed as signs of wisdom and beauty found in the adventures of life. Cheers to wrinkles, distinguishing an acumen of life well lived!...
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Happiness is Easy to Find and Yours to Give

Happiness is Easy to Find and Yours to Give

The Gift of Giving Unexpected gifts are the best. Last week, I received a beautiful memento from a friend. I had been looking for a special statue to rest at my brother's gravesite, but I was struggling to find just the right one. My friend knew of my desire and made it her quest to locate just what I was looking for.  Presenting me the beautiful fairy statue was a symbol of our friendship, but also a touching reminder that giving is the key to happiness. Suffolk Fairy Emily Statue by HomeStyles True Happiness is Giving it Away The fact is, the graciousness you reveal by the act of giving is even more valuable than the gift itself.  You can give a smile, give your time, give your compassion, all with no cost but great benefit to you.  As Maya Angelou so thoughtfully said, "When we give cheerfully and accept gratefully, everyone is blessed."  Remember, every time you give your happiness away, you are gaining happiness in...
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Multitasking and Focusing Mistakes

Multitasking and Focusing Mistakes

We, the human race, are not built for this... While skimming the news this week, I read that humans are terrible multitaskers.  It turns out that trying to accomplish more than one thing at a time actually reduces your focus and productivity. And all this time I've been praising myself and others for over-committing our to-do lists and schedules in order to "get it all done".  I guess we've been doing a lot, but not very well! A perfect example of the multitasking myth...You can't get very far sucking your thumb and snuggling a blanket while riding your trike!  Can you really do it all? Research doesn't shine a promising light on the multitasking myth.  In fact, researchers are finding that our focus is decreased, actually divided between each task we do. For example, let's say my husband greets me as I arrive home and begins a  conversation.  At the very same time, my phone chimes to indicate an incoming email. While listening to my husband,...
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Taco Bell

Taco Bell

Last weekend I found myself in a Taco Bell drive-thru, dirty, sweaty, and just plain hangry. I had spent the entire day working in the yard without taking time to eat properly, trying to finish up my to-do list before running my daughter to her sport practice. I was starving by the time The Bell caught my stomach’s attention. I pulled up to the speaker to order when my whole day turned around. The employee taking my order was HAPPY. Happy to speak with me, happy to take extra time to get the order correct, happy to be at work, exuding a sense of pride in himself that spilled over into my day. His happiness reminded me that whatever task is at hand, do it with joy. Cheers to spreading your joy!...
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A Smile is Never Wasted

A Smile is Never Wasted

Sometimes a smile is all I have to give.  In a frustrating, time-restricted world I can succumb to my own fret... But, I can always muster a smile.  And that smile travels far - from me to the impatient person in the checkout line behind me shifting their weight in disapproval as I hem haw between the flavors of gum before I commit to the pack that I finally hand the cashier, softening the waiting customer's facial expression.  This spreads into a smile that they share with the cashier as they finally get their turn to check-out.  The hangry cashier who hasn't had a chance to eat her lunch since the line has not let up for what seems an eternity, sees the friendly customer and for a moment forgets her lunch and begins a chummy chatter.  When the manager walks by, seeing the cashier sharing a welcoming smile in her check-out line, the manager's pride in his team swells, making...
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